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Mariel Loveland, of the New York band Candy Hearts, wrote on her "Ship Without a Rudder" blog that she was "sick of keeping quiet and watching every band I love and adore be all chummy with" the unnamed tour manager for the Canadian band Seaway who also worked for hers.
"It happened on tour in front of a line full of people at Seaway’s merch[andise table]," Loveland wrote. "He was screaming at me, like usual, calling me names and saying I wasn’t worth anything, like usual."
The abuse lasted nearly a year before Loveland said she "finally decided not to take it anymore."
"That’s when he got violent," she wrote. "He started throwing things at my head and pushed me, while screaming in my face. He winded me with the stuff he threw at my stomach and I screamed louder to draw attention to him, in the way you sort of are supposed to yell really loud to scare a bear that’s about to kill you.
"I tried to hit him back but he is massive. I pushed him and nothing happened. I spent the rest of the tour terrified."
Seaway had declined comment.
Candy Hearts, which has recorded three albums in its six years, played the Vans Warped Tour last summer -- and will be at Dingbatz in Clifton on June 28.
Loveland said she didn't want to be responsible for getting the manager bounced. She also said that "people who knew what happened didn’t want to take sides - they said we’re both their friends.
"There’s nothing in the world that i’d rather do than play music and go on tour," Loveland wrote, "and he took that safe, happy feeling I have on the road away from me.
"Every single day I wake up and remember he told me no one is going to believe me, how I was just a crazy girl who’s band was terrible and he was going to make sure he ruined my career.
"So I kept quiet. I keep quiet because every day I see another band I love repping Seaway, and I’m afraid. I’m afraid and feel isolated.
"I’m not saying he should be fired from his job or that I want his life ruined," she wrote. "I’m saying he needs to be held accountable. He needs to seek help and know how he affected people. In an industry where we don’t have HR, we’re responsible for keeping it safe."
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