What's the big attraction? According to Bat Sheva Marcus, clinical director of the Medical Center for Female Sexuality in Purchase who was recently dubbed the "Orthodox Sex Guru" by The New York Times, women are very attracted to “being taken” fantasies but they’ve been told that they are not politically correct and so they have moved on to vampire stories.
"I think this book brought S&M into the acceptable world," explains Marcus.
It also, no doubt, awakened some sexual longings among couples. "I’m concerned that it might make people feel inadequate or sad at what they don’t have but I would tell viewers that sex lives can be fixed and improved," she says.
One piece of advice she offers -- especially as the movie opens on Valentine's Day -- "I hope seeing it makes people go home and have great sex."
And while the movie is in no way realistic -- not many people have ten expensive cars and keep a 1,000 square foot 'toy' room in their apartment -- it is normal for long-term couples to use fantasies (this one or any others) to keep their sex life alive and interesting, added Marcus.
"The most important message from the movie should be that if something sexual seems like it would be fun to try, and no one is getting hurt from it, go for it!" she says. "Don’t let popular perceptions of what is 'right' or 'wrong' for you, get in the way."
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