Cyber sex on Facebook fueling divorces?

Facebook and other online social networks are increasingly breaking up marriages and making people more paranoid about their partners — and both the temptation and suspicion are taking a toll. “20 percent of all the [divorce] petitions containing references to Facebook,” said Mark Keenan, the managing director of Divorce-Online.

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“I had heard from my staff that there were a lot of people saying they had found out things about their partners on Facebook,” Kennan told “I was really surprised.”

The most common reason, he said, were “people having inappropriate sexual chats with people they were not supposed to.”

And in many cases, it has been with old flames or secret crushes from years or decades ago, thanks to how easy sites make it for them to find one another. The practice has been dubbed “Retro-sexing.”

Opinions vary, but many consider such behavior emotional infidelity.

“I would almost rather see someone I’m with have a one-night stand,” a divorced Hudson County woman told CLIFFVIEW PILOT. In that case, she said, “there’s no emotional involvement.”

Another CLIFFVIEW PILOT source ran into serious trouble when the person’s spouse found compromising emails being collected for a story.

Of course, when it comes to foolin’ around, there’s always been a market for private eyes. So it’s no surprise that more spouses are turning to software to peek at what their significant other is up to.

The Telegraph story cited a woman named Emma Brady, who discovered divorce was in her future when her husband updated his Facebook status to: “Neil Brady has ended his marriage to Emma Brady.”

In several cases, the “cheaters” have been having cybersex with people they’ve known only online.

Second Life is a different story. Accounts are legend about people reinventing themselves and hooking up with others.

As the failing economy continues to strain marriages — undermining those in which partners don’t have each other’s backs — the divorce rate could be in for another severe spike, especially as it becomes easier both to ignite a cyber hookup and to sniff one out.

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